Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Hello and welcome to my growth club. My name is Emmanuel.
[00:00:02] Speaker B: And my name is Grace.
[00:00:04] Speaker A: We are your partner in growth and effective living. We want to say thank you from the bottom of our heart for tuning in and for subscribing to our channel. If you've not subscribed to our channel yet, I want to ask you for this favor. Please do so now and turn on your notification button. We have so much to share with all of you. This is a channel that is committed to growth and we are going to share. I mean as a couple. We have been on this journey for a while. We have been learning and discussing. I think our conversations are pretty boring. Well, not really. Not really. But we have just been on this purpose driven life and we think we found so much that have changed our lives and we want to make sure that we share them with you. Today we are going to share eight quotes that have changed our life for good. Like, I mean for good. Like for good. So such good stuff. And I'm not going to talk about the scriptures today. Maybe one day we will do the scriptures and the lessons that we learned from the Bible. That's one book that changed everything. But today we're going to share some random quotes that we found. And I think there's so much juice in there and how we use those, the lessons from those quotes and the knowledge that we acquired from those people to change our lives. Let's get started.
[00:01:23] Speaker B: The first course I love so much is Life is a Process of Becoming A Continuous Process of Learning by Henry Ford.
[00:01:32] Speaker A: Yeah, that, that. I think that that was so profound. I mean life is a process of becoming.
It's a process of becoming a continuous process of learning. Like, you know, when we began, we were looking for life. What is this life about? And, and how should we live it? And I think, I mean we read a lot of books, we discussed a lot of books and I just couldn't find anything. Anyone who seems to know what this life is about. But I think this quote from Henry Ford changed everything for me. It was like.
It's not so much about what this life is about, you know, at a particular point in time. It's about what we become. Like if you think about a baby, if you think about someone like maybe a child. Child knows nothing. Came to this earth knowing nothing. Like we can talk about our children. Nothing. Completely blank. And then now they begin to learn. And then they begin to talk and they begin to like, they learn from the environment. They learn from almost everything. Our experiences. Yeah, that's, that's everything. Because what we do not learn, we just don't know. That's true. And, and I think that who we are, what we do and what we don't do is just what we know and what we don't know.
[00:02:50] Speaker B: That's true. That's true.
[00:02:52] Speaker A: You know, and that's through what we've experienced.
[00:02:57] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:02:58] Speaker A: And, and so that, that has really changed us because now we put premium on experience.
[00:03:03] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:03:04] Speaker A: We don't disregard the experiences of our past.
[00:03:08] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:03:08] Speaker A: We are able to talk about them openly. We're able to have very honest and frank conversation. Conversations on our experiences. You know, how you grew up, where you grew up, you know, your family the way you are and the way you see things, the way you do things.
And I think a lot of times we just kind of hide our past from ourselves. Some people don't even want to go there. I get that. But.
[00:03:34] Speaker B: Yeah, but when you're in a pursuit of growth. Right. Regardless of the experience you've had, whether positive, whether negative, like we state in our general, it's very important for people to explore certain key experiences, things that have impacted their lives.
[00:03:50] Speaker A: Yeah. Positive and negative.
[00:03:51] Speaker B: Because when you are someone who has a growth mindset, who, like Henry Ford said, a process of becoming. So if you want to become something better than you are today, you would practice gratitude. Like, whether the experience was good, whether the outcome of a decision you made was good, whether something you did was bad, you appreciate it. It will not be about, oh, God, why did I do this? Why didn't I have this going up? But it's about, what lesson did I learn from it? How is it contributing to who I want to become?
[00:04:23] Speaker A: Right, right, right. And I, I, I think that's, that's everything. And some people especially, like, if you're a couple, you need to, there are people who don't know their spouse, they don't know them. Like, they don't really judge people based on, based on who we think they are rather than who we know them to have been. Or I guess let me put it this way. We don't judge people based on their experiences in life and their learnings in life, you know, and the opportunities they got. We judge people based on who they are right now. Like, but there are some people who have never experienced some things and they, there's no way they, they will know that.
It just doesn't exist in their mind. It doesn't, it just doesn't. And so, and we realized this when started living together, like after we married, obviously, because it was like, how are you not able to do this? How are you, you know, how are you this way? How are you that way? And it was just because those experiences never existed for you, and some of them never existed for me. And so now you are able to deal with people with so much grace, because then you become teachable, but then you also become a teacher.
[00:05:34] Speaker B: A teacher? Yep.
[00:05:34] Speaker A: So you allow people to teach you, and then you are able to teach. And that's why this quote is so profound. So I'm going to seven practical steps that we wrote down.
[00:05:43] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:05:43] Speaker A: Under this. This particular quote that changed everything for us. Number one, explore your key significant experiences and their impact on you. You know, the. The experiences that you've heard that have had significant impact on you. The way you talk, the way you behave, the way you see things, the way you feel, all of them are just not coming from somewhere. They're coming from your environment. They're coming from your experiences. They're coming from your learnings. You want to confront them. You want to explore them. Number two, you want to reflect on the positive and the negative impact of those experiences. Your brain has associated every experience with something. Yeah, that's what it is sometimes is associated with something which is in the class of pain or something that is in a class of pleasure. And it could be something else. It could be maybe a happy feeling. It could be sorrow. It could be something. It could be what they call trauma. Whatever it is your brain has associated your experiences with. You know, you know some things in these classes, so you want to reflect on them. If you have a general, our general will help you do that. But if you don't, you can just use a PayPal. Well, you can get a general get.
But. But you can use a paper and just begin to write. What are some of the experiences that I've had the most.
Well, what I consider to be positive experiences that have had the most significant impact on my life. And what are some of the experiences that I've had?
Like my negative experiences that I've had? Maybe you were abused. Maybe you had a broken heart. See, the way you are now, the reason why you don't trust man is just because of some of those experiences. So when you start writing them down, you begin to realize, oh, this is why my brain has associated. I think in some of the episodes, we talked about how our son associated dogs with danger. And because of that, he will. He will always be scared of dogs. And now how we had to, you know, I guess, reprogram his mind, or we had to de. Associate that, you know, experience and emotion and allow him to now feel that dogs are our friends. And then all of a sudden, he started loving dogs again. Number three, reflect on your beliefs because those beliefs are formed as a result of your life experiences.
[00:08:05] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:08:07] Speaker A: The beliefs you have are coming from, you know, because beliefs are things that you've accepted to be true.
[00:08:14] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:08:15] Speaker A: And so when you experience something, it's like if you climbed something, maybe you climbed, let's say I put you on, I don't know, maybe you climbed, let's say, a wall. And then you fail. Okay. Your brain says, well, that wall is gonna cause this particular result. It means that. So then the next time you get to the wall, you are obviously going to pause, you know, you're obviously going to feel, hey, careful, careful, you're gonna fall again. So what has happened is you are. You accepted that thing to be true. And I mean, this is, I think, the most basic example I could give, but it applies to almost everything. The reason why some people feel the way they feel is because they've had people who are never faithful to them. And so one event, and immediately you begin to perceive them through the filter of your beliefs that, oh, he's going to do. He's going to do this to you.
[00:09:11] Speaker B: He's also like that.
[00:09:12] Speaker A: Exactly. No, you are sometimes exaggerated. Sometimes it's true, they're going to do it, but sometimes, sometimes you are just exaggerating.
[00:09:19] Speaker B: So it's very important to confer that. Yeah, I think I'll talk about number four. Yeah. Practice, gratitude. I. I think I mentioned that you're able to know that. Okay, since I'm on a pursuit of growth, since I want to become better, or whether it was good outcome to certain thing, whether it was a good experience. I appreciate that maybe something terrible happened to you. Some you lost someone, you lost a job, you'd be like, okay, what are the opportunities out there that I can leverage to become better or I can get something way better. So that's also critical. Number five, understand that your emotional and behavioral reactions are as a result of your life experiences that we cannot overemphasize that enough. Because the way you react to something, the way you see something, is always, always tied to your life experiences, the things you've experienced. So if you know, you've been in a family, maybe you came from a family where everything you do, whether good or bad, you're like, oh, keep on.
[00:10:19] Speaker A: You know, I'm telling you, you will.
[00:10:21] Speaker B: Never be able to take feedback, even at the workplace, like People will say, okay, I think you can do this better. And you feel like it's an attack on your character and all these. So maybe how you are reacting, you know, how you feel, how you feel.
[00:10:36] Speaker A: This is why you can have a very good friend. You love the person, really, but yet sometimes you have a bit of envy and jealousy when you think they are going ahead of you.
[00:10:46] Speaker B: Exactly.
[00:10:47] Speaker A: You know, because especially for Africans, we grew up in a society that's competitive.
[00:10:52] Speaker B: Exactly.
[00:10:52] Speaker A: That created that kind of thing, that, hey, your friend was first and why were you not first?
[00:10:56] Speaker B: Yep.
[00:10:57] Speaker A: And so you. You grow with them.
[00:10:59] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:11:00] Speaker A: And you still don't know. So you're. You're battling a lot of unnecessary feelings right now. And if you're not careful and you don't obviously listen to podcasts like this, which will let you see it, you are gonna start being hard on you, and you're gonna start feeling like you're a bad person. And why do I feel this way? Why am I not happy for this person? The truth of the matter is that is because of those experiences. And so the way you fix those emotions, the way you fix those reactions will be going back to those experiences and the associate those things that, you know, those experiences that, like, if someone is doing well, your brain says that it means they're better than you. The associate that, no, someone is doing well, it doesn't mean they're better than me. Talk to yourself and dissociate that experience from that feeling. And the moment you do that, I promise you, all of a sudden you start feeling better. It's like, oh, wait, what? Like, you just start feeling better. And. And I think a lot of people.
[00:11:58] Speaker B: Really at war with everyone, everybody.
[00:12:00] Speaker A: I think a lot of people really struggle with this because they don't understand that. But again, the whole point of what we are saying is get into your brain and dissociate.
[00:12:10] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:12:10] Speaker A: I mean, it sounds simple. It's more complex. I don't even want to go into the science of it, because I'm not a master there. But I think that the most basic way to look at this, as your brain has associated, you know, different experiences, different learnings with different emotions. And, you know, even sometimes it makes predictions of things because again, before they happen. Yeah, because it's like, look at the way AI works. AI is just computers training on so many things that now they begin to predict. So if you ask the AI a question, they're not really intelligent. Their intelligence is just based on prediction. So they are just predicting what you. What you're really looking for. And sometimes they get it right, sometimes they don't get it right because they're just making predictions. And so while your brain is obviously more complicated than that, but I hope that you get it. We also will say this, that identify your personal needs as a human.
[00:13:07] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:13:07] Speaker A: I promise you, you have need. And I think one of the things that. I think this really changed our lives because think about being put in a box and then there is no. Like, you're not getting oxygen immediately. You begin to. You begin to behave in a particular way. And that behavior, if you're not. Like, if you. It's just because your brain needs oxygen, it needs something. Right. And that's the thing that I think many people don't realize. A lot of the time the way you feel, like your feelings are not what you should live by. I'm serious. Like, you shouldn't live by your feeling because sometimes they're just telling you you need something.
[00:13:46] Speaker B: There's a.
[00:13:47] Speaker A: You need something or you want something. This is like, if. If I want to be first and someone is first, then you're gonna feel some way. But it's not because that's who you are. That's just your. Your. Your body is telling you that something you wanted, well, someone got it.
[00:14:04] Speaker B: Or sometimes you are in a relationship with someone and you are like this. Maybe on Val's day, right. People are posting their spouse and saying nice stuff about them. And then your spouse maybe says, oh, I don't like PDA and all that, so I don't push you. Then you realize that you are feeling some way.
[00:14:21] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:14:21] Speaker B: It's just because you just want to. You'd feel affirmed like someone you want.
[00:14:25] Speaker A: Exactly. Exactly. Exactly. And we have. We have different needs. We. We've said this before, that Maslow has done great work on that. Like, if your basic needs are not met, I. Sometimes people come to us for counseling and they're like, oh, you know, and my husband is like this. And I'm like. It's like, okay, you just don't have money. It's not because there's no love. It's just because you don't have money. You strive, you're striving to. To meet your basic needs. And. And every single day you're not able to meet it, you are unhappy. And then you are behaving some particular way. It's just telling you that you have needs and you just want to understand your needs so that now when you understand your experiences and you understand your learnings and what your Brain has associated these experiences and learnings with and you understand your needs, then you understand why you feel the way you feel, why you react the way you act. Someone says something you're not happy about because there is a self esteem need inside of you. You know, that's why everybody has a bit of ego. Like you are not a demon. I'm telling you, you just, you are a human being and you have needs and you, you have to understand them.
[00:15:37] Speaker B: And the last thing I, I love so much is explore your mental image of a good and successful life. I think we dealt with this topic in one of the podcasts and it was profound. Yeah, how have you associated, like how have you defined successful life? Is it just what you've seen in movie or what has your brain actually associated success with? Is it having cars and, or you know, having a mansion, Having at the core of it, having, you know, growth, mindset, you know, having love in your heart. Prioritizing your family, your wealth, your health, knowing what your principles are, what principles are guided. Like if at the core of it you, you love wisdom, you know, you have a. Why you know, for everything living the purpose. So like it's what is important to you. Maybe your family is flourishing. Like last time in the episode you said when you wake up and you feel like your, your heart is not at war with anyone, then you, you feel good. You feel like, you know, that's something. So it's for people to so important, you know, know what a good and successful life is.
[00:16:37] Speaker A: Yeah, your brain, there's a mental image of a good and successful life. I'm telling you, whether you are conscious of it or not, it is there. Maybe like you talked about movies, like maybe you've seen them through, maybe you saw through people you admire. It's there. So for some people it's fame and power. Some people it is, you know, material things. Some people is beauty. Whatever it is, it's there and you want to make sure that you bring it out and you confront that. Is it true? We will share with you even as you can see on the screen. If you're listening to us on Apple podcast or Spotify, you may not see it, but Those watching on YouTube you can see on the screen how we came about. You know, like we had to kind of throw away a particular mental picture of life we had, which is the staircase one that you see on the screen. Probably if you've been following us, you've seen this before. And the new one that we call the state of flourishing. We are not Looking at sauces as things we acquire and just those kind of things. But it's a state of being. It's a state of being we want to be at. With love in our heart, with our mind, you know, or with a mindset of growth, with a heart, with a heart set of love, basically. That's what we mean. And then a mindset of growth with all these areas, you know, having a good balance in these areas. Our wealth, our health, our relationship, our work and our impact, and connecting all these areas as wisdom. We want to put priority on knowledge. And to the extent that we just don't acquire knowledge, but we ask ourselves, what will we do with this knowledge? And so that's what we call wisdom, the application, the right application of knowledge and how those provide skills for these areas that matter to us. And then our principles and our priorities, which are determining the values that we have and eventually giving us a sense of purpose in life. And that's what we call the state of flourishing. This is our mental image of successful life. And if you love it, you can adopt it. It's also in our journal, and you can get our journal on Amazon. Let's go to point 2.
[00:18:44] Speaker B: Beliefs are the compass and maps we use to navigate and make sense of the world. Scott Young.
[00:18:51] Speaker A: Absolutely. I, you know, I was one with, like, when, whenever there is an incident and I see two people for the same incident. So like this week, there was an incident at the Oval Office where President Trump and Zelensky and J.D. vance were having a conversation. And the same, the same event. Like, like so many interpretations of the same incident. Everybody saw. And I'm, I was shocked. I'm like, how do we all see the same thing and yet perceive them from different point of view? Like, obviously makes sense, because if, if we're all looking at something, we are looking at it from different point of view. So someone can say, this one looks like this. Someone says, this one look like that. This one looks like this. This one is flat. The other one says, no, it is tall. Then the other person said, no, it is flat, it's tall. You know, but the whole point of it is that we are all looking at them from a particular lens. Everything or we are looking at it from a particular position. Those two are important.
[00:19:51] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:19:52] Speaker A: It's the same way you can wear a lens that will show you that this one, this thing is concave, and then another one will say, this one is convex. It's like two things are important, the position the person is looking at something from, or I call it the point of view of the person or their lens and beliefs, like Scott Young is saying, it's like that. It's like a compass is like a mob that we use to navigate and make sense of the world. But I also think that is like a lens through which we see everything.
[00:20:20] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:20:20] Speaker A: When someone believes something like, do you realize that if someone does not believe that there is God, all of a sudden, their interpretation of things in the world are completely different. If someone believes that, there are a lot of people say, I don't like this marriage. I don't like these people. I don't like that they don't even own them. They don't like them because they believe that maybe there is a God who has laws. And the laws, you know, found God's laws are maybe forbid these things. And because they believe that they have hatred for people who engage in that. And then there are people who don't believe that, so they don't have any hatred. And then there are those in the middle who says, listen, there is a way you can understand people. And I think that's what this is about. You know, our beliefs significantly impact our life. We have shared the identity, behavior, cycle. And we've talked about this. And if you've not watched those ones, go watch them. I think one of the things that we said is everybody's trying to anchor their value on something.
[00:21:22] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:21:23] Speaker A: And everybody. And because of that, we believe that we are something. Because what we believe we are. Some people say, that's my identity. No, I think, well, of course that's your identity. To your mind, that's not like, not what we are, but what we believe we are. And so if someone says, I believe I am this, I am that, I am that, I am this, I'm that, then all of a sudden everything else, you know, begin to follow. So if someone says, I'm a guy, but I believe I'm a woman, then they begin to behave that way. So they go for. They want to do a surgery, they want to do stuff. So believe drives almost every aspect of our life. And I think we can share some of the points under the beliefs that we wrote that, that they have been truly transformational. I cannot. I cannot even begin to describe it to many of the people listening or watching us right now. It's everything. It's just everything. Your worldview is everything. I promise you, the people that have never experienced them. I have never gone to some places just because of my worldview, just because of what I've chosen to believe. Can you Imagine whether it's true or not is a completely different conversation here. But just because of what I have believed, maybe as a result of my environment, maybe as a result of my nurturing, whatever it is, maybe as a result of my personal choice, that changes what I do, what I don't do. It changes how both of us like Steph Curry because we think he's a Christian.
[00:22:51] Speaker B: I'm like, I know.
[00:22:54] Speaker A: Just because you believe that he's a Christian.
[00:22:56] Speaker B: This example is very interesting because I remember, you know, I'm a See Ronaldo fan.
[00:23:01] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:23:01] Speaker B: But then at some, at some point I realized Messi had this Jesus, Jesus stuff.
[00:23:07] Speaker A: And all of a sudden, oh, I like mercy.
[00:23:10] Speaker B: And even recently when Celtics, I was like, oh, and then you saw Jason.
[00:23:15] Speaker A: Tatum say something about God, like, oh, he's talking about God. Then he's my friend.
[00:23:19] Speaker B: Oh, yeah, yeah.
[00:23:20] Speaker A: Because the foundation. Yeah. Of again, this is where value system are formed. You, Your identity is hooked.
[00:23:29] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:23:29] Speaker A: To your faith in Christ. And because of it, whenever you see people like that, then there is. That's the same thing with people. So there are people who say, I'm a Muslim. And because of that, like, there's Israel and Palestine, because I'm a Muslim. Oh, I am against Israel. And the same thing. It's like, oh, I'm. I'm a Democrat. They're all coming from different kind of, again, belief system, which we, many people may call it identity, but that's what really this is about. But let's share some of the things under the beliefs that will really help some people.
[00:24:04] Speaker B: The first one I think is very critical and very important is re evaluate your beliefs and align your worldview with reality.
[00:24:13] Speaker A: Yeah. A lot of time people think that. Well, because I believe something to be true, it is true. No, there is what you believe to be true and what is true. And here's the thing. There is even what you want to be true, and there is what is true. Truth is truth. Truth is not true because you believe it is true. Truth is truth. And I think what you want to do then is not to say, okay, this is what I believe and I have, okay, so it is true. No, what you want to do is to find what is true and believe that.
[00:24:49] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:24:49] Speaker A: But I think what we do is we think because I have believed that something is true that is true. And we apply this, even our relationship. I think this and I think that. And I think that. And like, are you sure, Are you really sure that this thing that you believe is true? So what I encourage people to do is to, like you said, reevaluate your beliefs. And, and I say look at it in three ways. Number one, your beliefs about God.
[00:25:12] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:25:12] Speaker A: Because like we talked about again, your. Your worldview and, and how this is driving almost every aspect of your life. I think a lot of people, if you look at the Islamic countries, you look at Christian countries, you look at it every. So many people are driven by that whether they believe that there is God or not.
[00:25:30] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:25:31] Speaker A: You know, if like wokeism and all stuff like, like people are just driven by whether I believe that there is God or not. If I believe that there is God, then what does my God want for the world? And if I don't believe that there is God, then what do I want for the world? And people are like that. So begin from Re. Evaluate your beliefs about God. Okay. Do that. This is why we have even a ministry called the Believers Avenue.
[00:25:53] Speaker B: Right.
[00:25:54] Speaker A: Begin by re evaluating your beliefs about God. Number two, re evaluate your beliefs about yourself. Okay. Confirm them. If you have the general. There's a part where you do testing for truth. And you're going to look at three of your most significant beliefs that are driving your life right now. And you're going to test them. And we have some things that you're going to use to test. You want to test if some things might be believable, but they might not be true. Believability is such a powerful. You see, believability is what people or what people do to make you believe them. So there is. It gives you.
They do some things. So for instance, if someone comes to you and the person is well dressed and then a person has, let's say a medical, you know, and the person speaks well, and the person says, I'm a doctor because of the address and because of the way they talk, they have a high believability. It does not necessarily mean that it is true.
[00:26:54] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:26:54] Speaker A: But at least it's a good start. Okay. Like in kid they say, you know, there are some things that have very low believability. And yet we believe it.
[00:27:05] Speaker B: Yeah. You know, this is funny because I remember when we came to the United States, I used to. Sometimes I feel so tired, I'm just walking. I wouldn't dress properly. And you always will tell me that. Do you know one day police will stop you.
[00:27:24] Speaker A: Came. I've gone to a maybe hospital where maybe the doctor was saying some things and you're wondering, is he a doctor?
[00:27:29] Speaker B: Oh, gosh, I have ever. I remember with Ethan in Ghana, there was one Doctor who I think I. Luckily for me, I was sitting close to his laptop, so I was describing some symptoms and I saw him typing, like, what is. I was like, then I'll do that immediately. My mind was, no, I don't think.
[00:27:46] Speaker A: This is like, they do that a lot of time. But you see, believability is important. So. Well, I'm not going to talk about how you can test for that. But, you know, you want to have, like, something must have at least some good amount of believability, but you have to also be careful, especially when it comes to love.
[00:28:03] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:28:04] Speaker A: You know, back. Back then people say, you know, and then they will go and do all kinds of things. They'll get. They'll dress and they will come to you, the woman. And sometimes just because of that, he said, oh, he loves me. Are you sure they love you? Are you. Are you really sure? I'm not saying test everything, but I mean, if you do this enough, your brain is always going to reason like that. It's. Yeah, this whole exercise is a mental exercise. It's kind of trains your brain to think in a particular way that will change your life. Right. But. But the second thing is not just about the beliefs about yourself, but also believes about others. Sometimes we are quick to project our perception of something or even our beliefs, you know, on others. So if someone is doing something, we immediately say, oh, they're doing it because of this. Instead of really looking at them. Like, even if someone is talking to us, instead of listening to them, we say, oh, this is what they are saying. So we don't hear them.
[00:29:05] Speaker B: Yeah, that's true.
[00:29:06] Speaker A: And, and that's the thing about beliefs. When, when you believe something about someone, it affects them almost everything. It affect what you hear. Yeah, the same thing. Like, I'm, I'm serious. Like, it's so powerful. Like, so, so powerful. Like I, I talked about the Zelinsky thing. Beliefs are so powerful. And, and so you want to, you want to give yourself kind of confront some of these beliefs you have about people. You know, like there's some people, you think this person is like this, like.
[00:29:34] Speaker B: And we pull people.
[00:29:35] Speaker A: You said they can't even change.
[00:29:37] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:29:37] Speaker A: As though we put them in a particular box. And. Or this person is like that, or this person will do this to me and this. And sometimes they're coming from our experiences. That's why we talked about this earlier.
[00:29:47] Speaker B: And even sometimes for people in, let's say, Ghana, you know, we put certain tribes in a particular example and we.
[00:29:55] Speaker A: Believe something about that no matter how.
[00:29:58] Speaker B: Like those people, you know, the person is, oh, so far as you're coming from this tribe, then this is how the person is going to act.
[00:30:03] Speaker A: The second thing that we want to share with you is this, under this beliefs thing that we're talking about is develop a personal worldview. I know this is going to be difficult. Obviously it's not going to be like a personal worldview, like a worldview nobody has before. But when we say personal worldview, it means that as you confront your beliefs, especially about God, about, like now we have a generation of people that the media is engineering them.
[00:30:30] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:30:31] Speaker A: Socially in ways that they don't even realize. You know, we're trying to look at what we are doing in movies, look at what we are doing with, with songs and you know, the, where the money goes and who gets the awards. And you know, we, we're trying to push a particular thing.
[00:30:47] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:30:47] Speaker A: And so we fund those things and we, we are engineering people's brains or minds or thinking or beliefs in, in a very interesting way. And so you want to develop a personal worldview, do not just say, well, there's, you know, these people don't believe and like, just don't do that. Have, have a worldview that you have actually confronted, that you have actually come to, I guess maybe not even a final conclusion. But you are certain that it is not just believable, but it's credible. You are certain that it's not just credible, but it is reliable.
[00:31:25] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:31:25] Speaker A: And like there are series of them. If you get the general, you, you'll be able to test some of these kind of beliefs that you have, but at least have a worldview that is to some extent. Right. Build on truth.
[00:31:39] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:31:39] Speaker A: I mean, even if, even if it is not absolute truth.
[00:31:43] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:31:43] Speaker A: It's something. Question something like not just because your parents were in that religion or not just because you yourself were born into the religion. I've said this before. There was a time that I didn't go to church for a very long time. And those were moments where I had to. I will ask. I, I was just asking myself some questions and I had to learn and I had to question some things. And I came to realize that what I found to be truth was not even what my parents believed. So even though we were, we are like all Christians, what I believe and what I came to realize about the Bible was completely different from what even their church, you know, was teaching. And so you want to come to that point, number three, examine the sources and the impact of your current beliefs. Where are these beliefs coming from? Examine them.
[00:32:29] Speaker B: Another key lesson is identify your limiting beliefs and thoughts. Yeah, this is very critical. What are, what are limiting beliefs? They are like assumptions and perceptions that limit a person's ability to achieve your goals, achieve your vision, or even grow to be better. And these are shared by so many things. Childhood experiences, some past failures, some, you know, societal norms and other things even from the devil.
[00:32:58] Speaker A: Like you really, you're watching something on social media and then their thoughts coming to you.
[00:33:04] Speaker B: People tell themselves that, oh, I cannot take this, I cannot be better, I cannot achieve this because I'm a woman. I cannot do this. All these are limiting beliefs. People even have believed certain things when, when it comes to relationship, they will say, oh, all marriages are good for the, in the first year subsequently. So even when things are going wrong.
[00:33:20] Speaker A: Oh, okay, this is what's going to happen.
[00:33:23] Speaker B: These are the things we believe. So it's, it's very important to identify what are some of the things limiting me. In fact, for my Christian brothers and sisters, some people have even believed. I'm not saying they are not true, but like some people have believed at the core that there are some generational curses that are following them. That if they are taking certain, they want to reach certain heights in life, they see a small, you know, maybe failure come in there and say, oh, then they are not able to achieve the height they want to achieve. We have to confront these beliefs by replacing them with empowering beliefs. Things that's important, you know, make you better. Things that regardless of the failure, regardless of what you are seeing, regardless of anything, or regardless of the norms or the status quo, yeah, you are able to break through.
[00:34:10] Speaker A: Yeah, so, so, so important. I mean, the many things that really limit us. And the last thing under this point is acknowledge your life expectations. You know, with beliefs come expectation.
[00:34:22] Speaker B: That's true.
[00:34:22] Speaker A: This is, this is so powerful because when you believe something, if I believe something about you, if I form some beliefs about you, they come with a particular expectation without good or bad expectations. So I'm expecting you to do something.
Mostly when you don't meet up to those expectations, I'm frustrated. I'm worried a lot of your frustrations are going to come because your expectations are being disappointed. When you have some beliefs about marriage, when you have some beliefs about maybe your life, when you believes you have some beliefs even about life, some people think that nothing bad will ever happen to them. Then when something bad happens to them, it's like, oh, your beliefs are the problem. When you deal with the beliefs, you can now deal with the expectations. Expectations are following those beliefs, every belief you have. So the people that believe just anything and they form, they quickly, they say it's an opinion, it's just not an opinion, it's just what you have actually believed. And whatever you have believed, determine a particular expectations you have. That there's something people think that maybe, maybe Trump is this and Biden is this and they have some expectations, they actually think that guy is going to destroy people. And that's the same thing with when people thought maybe Biden is this and Biden is doing that. People's expectations in life are often as a result of the beliefs that they have. And so if you can acknowledge those expectations, you have.
[00:35:49] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:35:49] Speaker A: And then you know, and begin to confront those expectations, you know, by confronting those beliefs that, that are I, I call them sponsoring beliefs. These beliefs are sponsoring those expectations. There is a reason why you cannot forgive someone who wronged you. Yeah, I'm serious. It's just because of some things that you've believed. And, and I think if you deal with those beliefs, you're going to deal with a lot of things. Well, this is all time will permit us. I think it's been a fruitful conversation. We could all only talk about two of the codes. Can you imagine? Yeah, but we, we have more to share with you next week. We're going to continue. We're probably going to look at two others and then we will keep on till we are done. And so I don't want you to miss it. If you've not subscribed to our channel yet, go ahead and subscribe right now to our channel. And if you, our notion system is there. If you need a system that will let you manage your life, you know, bring life. Life is stressful. We just want to make sure that we share as much so that you can, perhaps it can just help. Help you. Life is tough and stressful. And I want to believe that if you can have tools and knowledge and systems that will help you manage things, then things are going to be much easier for you. So get our notion system, visit mygrowthclub.org you'll find them there. Or visit notion.com@mygrowth club and you'll find a lot of systems that will help you. Digital systems actually. And if you want, our channel is on Amazon. The link you, you'll find the links right in the description. Do have a wonderful weekend and thank you really for being here. Thank you, my love, for doing this with me. See you another time. Bye.
